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This writing is a product of more than a decade-long journey through the depths of the inner world of men – initially, only my own inner world; later, of many others.


Having had the honour to spend years travelling alongside men on their inner journey of finding freedom and wholeness, I have observed that there is one thing that a man’s whole inner world, his personality, and even his physicality, is tremendously influenced and shaped, for good and for ill. 


That thing is a man’s relationship with his father, or the lack thereof.


You do not need to take my word for it; but if you are willing to embark on an inner journey with the intent to reclaim something inside you which you have lost, or gain something which you have never had (like confidence, for example, or creativity, or the courage to be yourself and freely speak your mind in your relationships with others), you will inevitably come face-to-face with this phenomenon many today call ‘the father-wound’.


There is, of course, the chance that you might not be willing to look at that, or think that it’s not too important to you in your pursuit of freedom, or feel that you have already explored it and given it enough time. If this is the case with you, take courage: I of all people know what that feels like and would not wish to press you needlessly or waste your time. But I also know that unless a man is challenged (no, shaken to the core of his inner foundations) and taken to debts he is unwilling to face, he will, to some degree, keep going around in circles and keep fighting the same recurring battles; and most importantly, remain fundamentally the same person he’s ever been.

There is no resurrection without death; there is no growth without pain.


And if there is one thing that causes pain to men in virtually every area of their lives – from relationships and sex to work and money to calling and purpose – is the father-wound. Yet, if there is one thing that men are doing everything in their power to avoid facing, this is the father-wound.


But, let me say it here: it's not supposed to be easy. This is precisely the point. 


I myself remember with painful clarity, sitting with the four other men of the first men’s group I was a part of, and hearing them openly and unashamedly discuss details of their journey with the father-wound…and it horrified me. 


I did not want to be there. I did not feel that I belonged there. 


You see, I felt that those men did not have fathers who were even remotely as good, upright, reliable, and sacrificial as my father was. In fact, I felt quite indignant that they were somehow assuming that I too, had some kind of a ‘wound’ from my father...

More than a decade later, I am overwhelmed with gratitude and indeed, relief, for the wonderful (though often terrifying) journey that has been unfolding before me and shows no signs of slowing down…


It works. But you don’t need to take my word for it. You need to take a leap of faith yourself.


I will see you on the other side.


With respect,



George Stoimenov


Eastbourne, East Sussex, Great Britain


'The Father-Wound: Discovering, Addressing, and Overcoming the Hidden Phenomenon that Shapes Every Man’s Life' is available on Amazon. Click here to view/place your order.